I know a number of women who waited to have children but then had trouble conceiving. For some, it took them years, and for others, it didn’t work at all. Lots of grief. I hope you’re doing okay. It was a really nice poem
It is understandable to want to be a mother but there is still time to accomplish that. I know a woman who gave birth at 37 to a very healthy little girl. So life happens, it can still come when you least expect it.
Ah i see. You are not counting your eggs…and I so hope you get well, or better enough that you can have everything you want. I’m sorry I misunderstood!
Please don't apologize! Thank you so much. That is my wish. I do my best trying to heal, but it's been a lot of downs lately. I'm not losing hope though! :)
If you have a good partner you can do this. We have so much in common! I love the name Audrine! I was so angry at god when I was in my early 40’s, so afraid I would never be given a baby. But I got married at what…must have been 40….was pregnant in five months and my little girl was due on my very birthday. As a special treat from the God I am still angry with over the Problem of Evil (though my faith somehow never goes away), she was born 3 weeks early (completely finished growing, she just could have gotten bigger). So I was so close to 42 when I had her I say I was 42 (fiction or not?) and she is a spectacular child. Everyone says that, but mine really IS!
I know it’s easy to feel the loss already but you have a lot of time. You can raise your child sans daycare on your own terms if you find the right partner.
You have time! But I understand feeling you don’t! Throw some hope out there for great partner and child (i even demanded and GOT a girl!) and even if you are ill, with right partner you can do it. Right partner…well that is going to be a fiction when what you want is a child and you are coming up on 40….but I wouldn’t trade my defective ex for anything because we made a beautiful baby and he let me raise her just as I liked and just stay home and write and be her mommy and he took care of me, so I could use the little energy I had to take care of her. I did attachment parenting. No damn daycare.
I have lots of poems, fiction and non-fiction about wanting a baby. I already mentioned some…:)
Anyway so glad we met today and I wish you feel better and get everything you want. Remember name if your stack! Audrine what a beautiful name….you can too have what you want.
Thank you for sharing your experience. You are brave and strong. I'm glad that happened for you, that you were able to have a child! This gives me hope that I still have time. I do have a wonderful partner. But I don't have the health right now for children, or giving birth. Maybe adoption will someday be a possibility. We'll see. I appreciate you!
I know a number of women who waited to have children but then had trouble conceiving. For some, it took them years, and for others, it didn’t work at all. Lots of grief. I hope you’re doing okay. It was a really nice poem
Thank you for your candor. That is heartbreaking. I will be okay.
God sucks the way god put an expiration date on the woman’s fertility instead if the man’s, given who usually has the more intense bind..USUALLY!
Sadly everyone goes through their own struggles, fair or not. Le sigh!
Le sigh, ha!
It is understandable to want to be a mother but there is still time to accomplish that. I know a woman who gave birth at 37 to a very healthy little girl. So life happens, it can still come when you least expect it.
Thank you so much! 🙏
Ah i see. You are not counting your eggs…and I so hope you get well, or better enough that you can have everything you want. I’m sorry I misunderstood!
Please don't apologize! Thank you so much. That is my wish. I do my best trying to heal, but it's been a lot of downs lately. I'm not losing hope though! :)
Nadia,
If you have a good partner you can do this. We have so much in common! I love the name Audrine! I was so angry at god when I was in my early 40’s, so afraid I would never be given a baby. But I got married at what…must have been 40….was pregnant in five months and my little girl was due on my very birthday. As a special treat from the God I am still angry with over the Problem of Evil (though my faith somehow never goes away), she was born 3 weeks early (completely finished growing, she just could have gotten bigger). So I was so close to 42 when I had her I say I was 42 (fiction or not?) and she is a spectacular child. Everyone says that, but mine really IS!
I know it’s easy to feel the loss already but you have a lot of time. You can raise your child sans daycare on your own terms if you find the right partner.
You have time! But I understand feeling you don’t! Throw some hope out there for great partner and child (i even demanded and GOT a girl!) and even if you are ill, with right partner you can do it. Right partner…well that is going to be a fiction when what you want is a child and you are coming up on 40….but I wouldn’t trade my defective ex for anything because we made a beautiful baby and he let me raise her just as I liked and just stay home and write and be her mommy and he took care of me, so I could use the little energy I had to take care of her. I did attachment parenting. No damn daycare.
I have lots of poems, fiction and non-fiction about wanting a baby. I already mentioned some…:)
Anyway so glad we met today and I wish you feel better and get everything you want. Remember name if your stack! Audrine what a beautiful name….you can too have what you want.
Condolences on your grandma.
—jen aka fishclamor
Thank you for sharing your experience. You are brave and strong. I'm glad that happened for you, that you were able to have a child! This gives me hope that I still have time. I do have a wonderful partner. But I don't have the health right now for children, or giving birth. Maybe adoption will someday be a possibility. We'll see. I appreciate you!