So very glad for this post, Nadia! As a write i admire, it’s so cool to see what inspires you and what has you thinking. The biggest thing that stood out for me was that quote on relationships. I’m definitely the person who has walked away from a relationship in silence without explanation to people who have hurt me greatly. In some cases, it was mutual and I only realised after I initiated contact again with the same results or lack of interest in actually wanting to hash out the past. Other times, it stemmed from my trouble with confrontation and conflict, believing that my silence is powerful enough to answer all questions but remaining curious past the relationship if I have dented the scar deeper by not being open and honest about my hurt and perspective. However, I don’t dwell on those moments anymore. I believe that communication is a two way street and in my case, I was usually the one driving on both most times. But I definitely love your insight on the importance of communication, especially with a life partner. I often question why my friends stay in relationships that seem to be filled with more fights than fun in my eyes but I had to accept that when you love deeply sometimes you have to fight to keep the fun.
Really enjoyed this read Nadia! Wow, I picked up a little! As far as Scorsese, I’ve seen Taxi Driver, New York, New York, The King of Comedy, The Last Waltz, Shutter Island, The Departed, and Hugo. The first few , suggestions from my Sicilian husband.😂
I have been stuffing my heart with edits.😂😂
Oh and episodes of Elementary, The Mentalist, The No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency, and Masterchef: The Professionals. Favorite memes are almost any involving the driving cat, the stare down cat, or the swatting cat. Giggle myself sick. 😂🐱
I was really chuckling at ‘chicken memory’! I don’t know what it is, or means, but it sure is funny! Thank you for ensuring that I watch Killers of the Flower Moon, that’s one glowing review. I'll prepare myself emotionally, beforehand! The Creative Gene sounds super interesting and has been added to my reading list. I’m glad you’ve been practicing for our dessert night :) “I feel things out visually and intuitively, so understandably, baking a pavlova has been a painful experience of reconfiguring myself.” 🤣 I do so love you, Nadia. Oh and yes to the weird ‘inspirational’ (?!) quote! I think this is too often used an excuse when the fact of the matter is that they just didn’t have the emotional capacity or maturity to have a potentially difficult conversation 🤷🏻♀️
Nadia! I’d never want you to leave Substack for any reason. You’re among the highlights of my feed. This post, included.
I must confess that I’m even less well-versed in Scorsese than you, though I have watched and Loved The Irishman and Goodfellas. I’ve only heard great things about Flower Moon, so I’ll have to watch it eventually for sure.
As for Kojima’s book, I’ve put it on my list. I’m sure it’s fascinating to see how a unique mind such as his thinks about creativity.
And the musings on relationships at the end were really interesting to follow. I think there’s a time and a place where that FB advice can and should be applied, but it’s by no means universal. I’ve tried the “cold shoulder”, “silent treatment” approach with my wife before, and it only ever leads to suffering on both our parts. Never again. Communication all the way!
"I'm doing stuff, thangs." I do remember that line! Thanks for this potpourri of fantastic thangs!
Esp. the asshole part. They forgot how to be "excellent to each other". Maybe we should stick them all in a room together and have Bill and Ted run on a loop for a year.
Want to watch (Purple) Flower Moon, but 3h 30? Erf.
Great post Nadia, thanks for all the work. I recently watched "The Boy and th Heron by Hayao Miyazaki. I found it completely baffling. I wondered if you've seen it. I was with my 31 year son and at the end of it I was embarrassed to say to him, "I have no idea what just happened." He felt the same. One of my long time favorite songs is by Dylan called One Too Many Mornings" sung by Jerry Jeff Walker.
You'll get no pushback from me on Scorsese, not a fan, probably only seen Taxi Driver and Goodfellas - there's something about his hyper-masculine themes that just leave me cold. No question he's a good film maker, but I can't get into the stories... I say this, of course, as we have been embarking on a rewatch of all the Bond films (😂) but in our defense, we spend most of our time making fun of them and how cheesy they were. AND we just saw Thunderball which - coupled with The Spy Who Love Me and Jaws (the movie AND the Bond character) - is the source of my fear of sharks in swimming pools. 🦈😁😱
Congrats on the pavlovas! Irritating as it must have been, they don't look like the easiest thing to make. So pat on the back for accomplishing it! Like the video games you mentioned you have a new superpower, no blood sucking required. :D
That FB quote is very millennial. XD I think it depends on the person in that case. But because something like an unfriending on FB requires no goodbye, I think this quote is basically how the world is. There is nothing romantic about the digital goodbye.
But I think there is also a good case to be made for drifting away. Maybe someone is in a weird place and there's nothing you can do about it. (the friend is in another city, or hangs out with some weird dudes) But maybe in the future they'll snap out of it? By drifting away, there's a chance to reconnect; whereas ending with a fight will most probably end things definitively.
I just read some Edgar Allan Poe to celebrate his birthday, as I always do. (Forgot to pour myself some brandy: maybe I'll do that tonight!) And now, thanks to the Steam Christmas sales, I can finally play Stray. If I meow enough, I get a bonus. :D
What a gorgeous eclectic mix. I’m dying to see Killers. Even more so after reading this! Your pavlova looks tasty and I’m saving all the great baking ideas until I have a more functional kitchen again one day 😂
i’m not a big movie fan either, lol! my wife now makes me watch a “classic” every Friday to get up to speed but i would rather watch the office as well
So very glad for this post, Nadia! As a write i admire, it’s so cool to see what inspires you and what has you thinking. The biggest thing that stood out for me was that quote on relationships. I’m definitely the person who has walked away from a relationship in silence without explanation to people who have hurt me greatly. In some cases, it was mutual and I only realised after I initiated contact again with the same results or lack of interest in actually wanting to hash out the past. Other times, it stemmed from my trouble with confrontation and conflict, believing that my silence is powerful enough to answer all questions but remaining curious past the relationship if I have dented the scar deeper by not being open and honest about my hurt and perspective. However, I don’t dwell on those moments anymore. I believe that communication is a two way street and in my case, I was usually the one driving on both most times. But I definitely love your insight on the importance of communication, especially with a life partner. I often question why my friends stay in relationships that seem to be filled with more fights than fun in my eyes but I had to accept that when you love deeply sometimes you have to fight to keep the fun.
Aggghhhh!! So much to explore here! I need to devote a day to click your links and full-body immerse. Starting now with Vampyr.
If you’re eager for a new read, I just finished Whalefall last night and oh it will silence you. O
Really enjoyed this read Nadia! Wow, I picked up a little! As far as Scorsese, I’ve seen Taxi Driver, New York, New York, The King of Comedy, The Last Waltz, Shutter Island, The Departed, and Hugo. The first few , suggestions from my Sicilian husband.😂
I have been stuffing my heart with edits.😂😂
Oh and episodes of Elementary, The Mentalist, The No. 1 Ladies’ Detective Agency, and Masterchef: The Professionals. Favorite memes are almost any involving the driving cat, the stare down cat, or the swatting cat. Giggle myself sick. 😂🐱
I was really chuckling at ‘chicken memory’! I don’t know what it is, or means, but it sure is funny! Thank you for ensuring that I watch Killers of the Flower Moon, that’s one glowing review. I'll prepare myself emotionally, beforehand! The Creative Gene sounds super interesting and has been added to my reading list. I’m glad you’ve been practicing for our dessert night :) “I feel things out visually and intuitively, so understandably, baking a pavlova has been a painful experience of reconfiguring myself.” 🤣 I do so love you, Nadia. Oh and yes to the weird ‘inspirational’ (?!) quote! I think this is too often used an excuse when the fact of the matter is that they just didn’t have the emotional capacity or maturity to have a potentially difficult conversation 🤷🏻♀️
Wow, it's taken me a long time to get around to reading this! But as usual, I'm awfully glad I did.
Nadia! I’d never want you to leave Substack for any reason. You’re among the highlights of my feed. This post, included.
I must confess that I’m even less well-versed in Scorsese than you, though I have watched and Loved The Irishman and Goodfellas. I’ve only heard great things about Flower Moon, so I’ll have to watch it eventually for sure.
As for Kojima’s book, I’ve put it on my list. I’m sure it’s fascinating to see how a unique mind such as his thinks about creativity.
And the musings on relationships at the end were really interesting to follow. I think there’s a time and a place where that FB advice can and should be applied, but it’s by no means universal. I’ve tried the “cold shoulder”, “silent treatment” approach with my wife before, and it only ever leads to suffering on both our parts. Never again. Communication all the way!
"I'm doing stuff, thangs." I do remember that line! Thanks for this potpourri of fantastic thangs!
Esp. the asshole part. They forgot how to be "excellent to each other". Maybe we should stick them all in a room together and have Bill and Ted run on a loop for a year.
Want to watch (Purple) Flower Moon, but 3h 30? Erf.
What a wonderful post, Nadia. So many different things yet woven together and held by your magic!
Great post Nadia, thanks for all the work. I recently watched "The Boy and th Heron by Hayao Miyazaki. I found it completely baffling. I wondered if you've seen it. I was with my 31 year son and at the end of it I was embarrassed to say to him, "I have no idea what just happened." He felt the same. One of my long time favorite songs is by Dylan called One Too Many Mornings" sung by Jerry Jeff Walker.
You'll get no pushback from me on Scorsese, not a fan, probably only seen Taxi Driver and Goodfellas - there's something about his hyper-masculine themes that just leave me cold. No question he's a good film maker, but I can't get into the stories... I say this, of course, as we have been embarking on a rewatch of all the Bond films (😂) but in our defense, we spend most of our time making fun of them and how cheesy they were. AND we just saw Thunderball which - coupled with The Spy Who Love Me and Jaws (the movie AND the Bond character) - is the source of my fear of sharks in swimming pools. 🦈😁😱
Congrats on the pavlovas! Irritating as it must have been, they don't look like the easiest thing to make. So pat on the back for accomplishing it! Like the video games you mentioned you have a new superpower, no blood sucking required. :D
That FB quote is very millennial. XD I think it depends on the person in that case. But because something like an unfriending on FB requires no goodbye, I think this quote is basically how the world is. There is nothing romantic about the digital goodbye.
But I think there is also a good case to be made for drifting away. Maybe someone is in a weird place and there's nothing you can do about it. (the friend is in another city, or hangs out with some weird dudes) But maybe in the future they'll snap out of it? By drifting away, there's a chance to reconnect; whereas ending with a fight will most probably end things definitively.
I just read some Edgar Allan Poe to celebrate his birthday, as I always do. (Forgot to pour myself some brandy: maybe I'll do that tonight!) And now, thanks to the Steam Christmas sales, I can finally play Stray. If I meow enough, I get a bonus. :D
What a gorgeous eclectic mix. I’m dying to see Killers. Even more so after reading this! Your pavlova looks tasty and I’m saving all the great baking ideas until I have a more functional kitchen again one day 😂
Such a great post. So multilayered. I love I Hideo Kojima.
also the pavlova looks amazing and you have so much patience to attempt baking that lol
i’m not a big movie fan either, lol! my wife now makes me watch a “classic” every Friday to get up to speed but i would rather watch the office as well
*Return of the Obra Dinn 🤦♂️